My brother, Isaac, is getting married in 28 days. I am more than excited for him. But, I am less than enthusiastic for myself. You see, Isaac is 25. I am 28. He is getting married before me, and that presents a conundrum. Why you say? Because, I will have to face all of our family, all of our friends, and all their questions.
You know the questions I’m referring to. The one’s that come with raised eyebrows and feigned courtesy. You look great, Simone, how are you doing? Translation: You aren’t ugly, Simone, why aren’t you married? Ahhhh!
What’s a single girl to do? How do I explain that I am content? I LOVE my, family, job, apartment, friends, church, and all around life. How do I explain that when I wake up in the morning I thank God for another day that I get to live in this FANTASTIC city? Why does it have to boil down to this one future guy that I hope to meet in the near or distant future?
Yes. One day I do want to be married. Yes. I do want to have 4-6 kids. No. I am not delusional. I know that if I want to have that many kids I’ll have to start sooner rather than later. And No. I’m not one of those Sex in the City gals that thinks having a great career, wearing high heels to walk 20 blocks, and sleeping around is the life. I’m just not in a hurry. Can that be okay?
Not that we are to revel in others misfortune to make ourselves feel better - but my younger brother (by two years) got married last year and my youngest sister (by six years) is getting married next year - and looks like I'll be well and truly single to both.
ReplyDeleteI know I'm very blessed too and honestly it's other people that tend to make me feel bad about my 'situation'. If you ever want to talk/vent/pray - you know where I am :)
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Love ya x
Kilara! You totally get where I'm coming from. Why is that other people are make us feel uncomfortable...when we REALLY aren't. Thanks for being the first commenter and and follower. YAY! That means a lot to me! I'm glad we are on the same page and I look forward to talking/venting AND praying. You are a gem!
ReplyDeleteI second you guy's emotions! I'll be 31 this year with no prospects on the horizon. I am perfecly fine until people I care about get married or start asking about my single status. I don't know about other single ladies out there but I'm milking this bad boy for all it's worth!
ReplyDeleteI want to know - why are so many great women single?! Is it because women are now more educated than men, and the men in this world can't deal? We can only keep ourselves so busy with work, friends, church...eventually some of us want to have families and then we start thinking we will have to wait until our 40s for a "How Stella Got Her Groove Back" moment! lol Hallelujah for in vitro and adoption!
ReplyDeleteYou probably already know, Simone, that you will never make everybody happy. When I got married (years and years ago) I hadn't been 15 minutes away from the altar (literally!) when some knot-head said, "So, when are you going to have a baby?" Good heavens! I just got married less than an hour ago and now they have just put another hurdle out for me to jump . . . ? Seriously?
ReplyDeleteWell, you get my drift. Just stay true to the course God has set . . . because that's about all you CAN do.
You are fine just as you are and where you are. .. and very very loved.
Holly
LOL! LOL! LOL! Holly you are a gem! Thank you SO much for that dose of reality. You are right...there will always be a hurdle to jump for SOMETHING. I'm on God's clock though...so its all good.
ReplyDeleteHeather! You raise an interesting point. The education gap. I have to say that education is not a make or break for me. Its more potential versus status. I mean, I have a friend that doesn't have a college degree, but has numerous certifications in his field and is ALWAYS studying to stay on top of the latest trend. He's established a niche for himself and is progressing. On the other hand, I'm not comfortable with someone that is complacent. I think I'll make that a topic one day. Thanks for raising such a great idea!
ReplyDeleteDiann! We are on the same page. Our season of singleness is a gift not a curse...ENJOY!
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