Picture
your heart as a whole apple pie. For
every emotional entanglement (real or perceived), you are giving away a slice
of that pie. If you do that consistently, what will be left for your dream man?
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Why Serial Dating is Damaging
Proverbs 4:
23 says: Guard your heart with all
diligence, because out of it flow the issues of life.
When you
are serial dating, you are not guarding your heart.
Serial dating causes you to make yourself available for constant critiques. And it leaves you wondering “Does this guy like me?” “Why didn't he call me?” Etc. Etc.
Serial dating causes you to make yourself available for constant critiques. And it leaves you wondering “Does this guy like me?” “Why didn't he call me?” Etc. Etc.
I serial
dated in college. But, after I started REALLY
walking with Lord, I realized it was damaging to my self-esteem to spend my free time with random
men. So, I started to date with
the intention of getting married.
How to Date Intentionally
·
Set
Criteria -There are
some eligibility requirements for dating you, Girl! And, every guy that winks at you
is not eligible.
·
Date
One Guy - Pop
culture says to keep things loose until you discuss exclusivity. I reject that
notion. Like or not, dating is a prequel to marriage. And, we all hope to be
married to one man “happily ever after.” We should date that way too.
·
Introduce
Him to Your Friends Early
- They’ll pick up on red flags. If you
don’t want to introduce him to your friends, there is probably an issue that
you are avoiding.
·
Give
Him the Man Test –
Men know men. So, introduce him to men
that care about you i.e. your dad, brother, best friend’s husband, pastor, etc.
They’ll be able to pick up on any signals that you are missing.
·
Work
Together - Whether
it’s volunteering at church or helping with a community project, learn how you
work together. It will help you determine his character and your compatibility.
But, Simone, I’m not even dating?!
That was me
too! I took a 3-year dating hiatus. And, during that time my walk with the Lord
deepened and He healed past relationship wounds.
God wants a
relationship with you more than anything. And, He may
be blocking you from romance with a man…so that He can romance you.
Hosea 2:
6-7 talks about this. It says:
Therefore I will block her path with
thornbushes; I will wall her in so that she cannot find her way. She will chase
after her lovers but not catch them; she will look for them but not find them.
Then she will say, ‘I will go back to my husband as at first, for then I
was better off than now.’
The Waiting Game
While
waiting to date, I recommend you pray for your future husband. But, don’t just
pray that he comes quickly. Pray for his protection, provision, and his safe
passage.
Can't wait to talk with you! Love, Simone
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